“Making my way downtown
And I’m home bound
Staring blankly ahead
Just making my way
Making a way
Through the crowd
And I need you
And I miss you”
— Vanessa Carlton
The lyrics above are from Carlton’s song A Thousand Miles. Those lyrics are a very accurate representation of how I feel when I am homesick. Honestly, I never expected this transition to be so difficult and emotional. But when the close friends who know all your secrets are four provinces and a 5-hour plane ride away, it feels tough emotionally, mentally and physically.
Zoey is one of my dear friends in Vancouver whom I miss very much. We share a great bond because we talked every day and we shared our problems. Not only would we provide support and comfort to each other so we could overcome our conflicts, we would also support each other in every way possible to achieve our own goals. Zoey helped me through some of the lowest points in my life, when I was dealing with anxiety and depression issues.
Besides her amazing support and heart, she is also one of the kindest and most accepting people I have ever met. We had a lot of mutual interests, passions and hobbies so I really enjoyed spending my free time with her. We would have a lot of fun hanging out even if it was something simple like getting dinner.
I would be lying if I said I did not miss Zoey. She made a big difference in my life and having to move away from her has been very challenging, since I’ve lost someone who constantly supported me. It saddens me a bit more that we are both on different tracks. Zoey is currently working full time in order to save up for school next year. Meanwhile, I am trying to survive first year while volunteering and saving money to pursue my passion for digital arts. Keeping in touch has been hard because we both have very busy lives with limited free time; the time difference and the distance make it even more challenging.
I am always very excited whenever I get the chance to skype Zoey. It does get emotional when we skype because I would much rather much rather be with her in person. I hate to admit it but I do cry during our Skype sessions. Although I try to be a masculine guy and not show my emotions around her, I realize these emotions are not as bad I take them to be. I am fortunate to have a friendship that I value so much: it’s because of the good I feel so bad.
Long-distance friendship has been one thing that has been killing me since I have been here. Even though it has been very tough, I realize that this transition is important, especially for me. Don’t let anyone hold you back is my advice to other young people. I recognize that this period moving away from home is very beneficial, because I get to be independent and pursue my lifelong dreams and goals. I am slowly understanding that bonds can be so powerful that not even distance can break them.
To my close friends back in North Vancouver, I want to say I miss you all – you’re amazing. And readers of this blog – how do you manage your long-distance friendships? I’m interested to hear your advice, so comment below!