Even though it’s exam season, this week there has been something weighing on me that I would like to get off my chest. As most of you will know if you have been following this blog throughout the course of the year, this is my graduating year. I have had such an amazing time here at New, and have had the privilege of meeting so many people from all over the world. Meeting new people from different corners of the world is fantastic, until the realization you aren’t going to be with each other forever sets in.
I have been incredibly terrible at goodbyes for all of my life. In fact, the word “goodbye” is rarely in my vocabulary. That word connotes some sad finality, something I have never accepted as truth. If you are in a similar situation, which I have no doubt at least some of you are, I encourage you to adapt the phrase “see you later.” It sounds much less harsh, and implies the distance you’re going to be sharing is only temporary – which it is, if you choose.
I’m choosing to be of the mindset that long distance will strengthen my friendships that are worth it, and that it is natural for some people to drift out of your life. That sounds tough, but it’s just one of those things that happens (and something I am currently struggling with). I am trying to be open to this change instead of absolutely dreading it, letting myself cherish the memories and moments of now.
The good news about long distance friendships in the age of technology is communication is easier than ever. We have Skype, Viber, WhatsApp, Facebook, Instagram…just to name a few. There’s also snail mail if you ever wanted to fulfill some childhood dream of having a pen pal. Plus, the benefit of your friends scattering is now you have excuses to visit a bunch of cool new places. If you’re really lucky, your friends will have space to host you so it’s even more feasible to visit!
What I am trying to say – or perhaps convince myself – is post-university separation from friends doesn’t have to be such a bad thing. It is a big transition and will be strange for a while, but it doesn’t have to be “goodbye.”
Are you preparing for separation from friends this year? Do you have any tips on keeping in touch? Let me know on our Facebook page!